The composition of a session
Both my private- and professional background with BDSM and Fetish are IRL practices. When I have done online sessions I’ve tried to mimik this experience, but they are much too different. So much that I do not enjoy the experience of an online session. When I have a sub right in front of me I can read them and make them feel what I want them to feel. On the other side of a computer screen I am stuck with the feedback you give me, and, sorry, but you guys suck at comunication. Another downside of online sessions is that I can no DO anything to you. I can not slap you in the face if you don’t listen, I can not whip you for my amusement, I can not make you terrified by making you watch me put needles in your skin. I can’t get around the fact that I want to get my hands dirty.
The composition of an online findom session looks very different, from my point of view. Though findom and findom practices can contain other elements of BDSM and Fetish the core theme and the whole point of it is money. If money is my primary expression of dominance I do not need to touch you, see you, or even hear you to assert myself. I still think it is more fun if I do, but the point is it is not needed in the same way. The only thing I really need to keep check of is your bank account.
In a findom session you can not have any other expectations than the fact that you are going to give me money. You can not expect for anything else to happen. A findom session is not you paying for my time as in a strict BDSM or Fetish session. If the session is over Kik you will get the pleasure of texting with me, and if it is over Skype you will have the pleasure of seeing me and talking to me. This is your reward. I will still want to know some of your kinks and dislikes befor hand as other elements will be brought in if I feel like it. But therein lies the key difference, if I feel like it.
Another difference for the two types of sessions is the time. The shortest BDSM or Fetish session I do is for 1 hour. Any shorter than this you will not be able to fit in more than the warm up. But some days 1 hour just flies by and you feel like you are just stressing though the whole process. A one hour online session feels endless. For me it comes back to not being able to do anything to the sub. All I can do is tell and sit back and watch. I guess some might find this appealing but I don’t. I don’t mind getting served or have someone act as my foot stand while I paint my nails, but this is in my opinion more active as I am pressent in another way. Not being able to feel present makes me uncomfortable, and in all honesty stressed.
My findomsession is only for 15min, which I feel is more than enough for you to see my pretty face and give me some money. It is also long enough for me to fit in a litte extra kink if I want to, and not too long so I would get bored if I decide to do nothing. Another reason for setting it short is to have the possebility to prolong it if I feel like it and the sub addheres to my demands. Which is why I ask for you to make certain you have time for more than 15min.
Slave Training and Contracts
Since I don’t do online sessions it might seem strange I still do Slave Training and Contracts on a distance/online. The reason why I feel comfortable with this is that it is longterm. A session is basicly trying to cater to the needs of someone you don’t know. With the exception of returning subs, of course. And I would concider having an online session with a returning sub that I have known for a while, but that is not the grounds for an offical service.
With Training and Contracts we will get to know eachother in a different way than if we are just to have a session. Both these services are expensive, and the reason for this is the amount of time you get with me as well as the amount of time and work I will put into the Dom/sub relationship. Much of the time will be to follow up and see you are following the specifications of the trining or contract. This can also include giving punishment or rewards. As I define it this is not the same thing as a session. It can in some parts look similar, but a session is from my part very much an improvised event that doesn’t need a specifik agenda. I can have, but it doesn’t need to. The follow ups are all about agenda. All this means I will get to know you both as a person and as a sub quite well, and these are the grounds for which I can actually create a good session. Befor I have the first IRL session with a new sub we always meet for coffe, lunch or the like. I often get more useful information of how to build up a good session for you during this hour than I do from your kinklist (I still need both so you still nedd to fill it in). This is kind of the shortcut version of what Training and Contracts do for a Dom/sub relationship.
If you want to know more about my findom services read here.
If you want to know more about Slave Training and Contracts read here.